Interview with Cognitive Behaviour Coach & Poet, Nathalie Milina


Nathalie Milina in her daily work life helps others to improve their lives via Cognitive Behaviour Coaching.  As someone who has worked as a Social Service Worker, let me tell you first hand how difficult it is to work with individuals everyday.  What Nathalie does for a living genuinely takes a lot of energy and love.  You have to be able to love fully and completely to be able to work with members of the public on such a personal level.  As a Poet, Nathalie allows her emotions to reign her written words.  Nathalie selects her phrases of  genuine and lovely pieces which riddle her Instagram page.  For more information on Nathalie please give her a follow on Instagram @sthlmdarling .

RMMW: What is your first writing memory?

NM: I was a very lively child. Restless. I remember when I went to school, nothing was interesting enough to keep my attention. Something was always pulling me away. This is where I wrote my first poem. At a school bench. It was about love.

RMMW: What do you feel good poetry ought to do?

NM: Good poetry ought to awaken some kind of an emotion. Great poetry should be felt in your guts. I don’t believe in judging. Everyone sees and reacts to things differently. If you can move another person with your words, then that’s it.

RMMW: What is your favourite poem written by you?

NM: Oh hell. That’s a difficult question. I don’t think I have one. I just write. It’s a need not a choice. I love every one of my texts and poems because they meant something right there and then when they were created.

RMMW: Have you ever been creatively blocked?  If yes, how did you overcome it?

NM: This might be found strange by some people, but I never push myself to write. It would be dishonest toward myself. If I am not inspired by something, then I don’t write. It’s as simple as that. But I guess if I had to, reading a book or talking to someone always opens up emotions.

RMMW: We all have to contend with our inner critics, how do you deal with yours?

NM: Haha you reminded me of when I wrote “You can’t touch me. I am my own worst judge and executioner.” Honestly, I don’t think too much of what I write if it feels right in my heart when I am in the emotion. Of course, I feel like ‘what is this shit’ sometimes. I think its healthy. But I almost always end up posting it. Go figure.

RMMW: Do you have any artist rituals before starting a new piece?

NM:  No. no rituals.

RMMW: How long have you been writing poetry?

NM: I’ve been writing poetry since I was a young teenager.

RMMW: Who are your favourite poets?

NM: I enjoy Poe, Neruda, Rilke, Baudelaire, Frost, Angelou... there are many.

RMMW: Tell us a bit about your cognitive behaviour coaching.

NM: My cognitive behavioral coaching is always individual. It’s about that persons needs. We uncover them together. And then we find strategies, tools, make plans, put up goals and so on. Its a process. A very good one with great results if you really want to make the changes necessary in your life.

RMMW: What do you want your clients to take away with them after a session with you?

NM: What I want my clients to tell me at the end of a session is that we have moved forward. That they feel like something has happened within them, that he or she has learned something new about them selves or that they have come to an insight.
And then we put up goals! I absolutely love helping people move forward.

RMMW: How do you manage your work life balance?

NM: Ah balance. What a wonderful word. I don’t believe in achieving anything without strategies, goals, plans, discipline, motivation and all that. Successful people, in whatever areas of life they work with themselves every day. By creating themselves each and every day. It’s about focus. About being proactive. About conquering fears and self growth.

RMMW: What do you feel is the writer's role in today's society?

NM: A writer’s role today and always should be to educate. The primary role has to be to spread knowledge.

RMMW: If you had a super power what would it be?

NM: Id love to be able to spread happiness. Just to be able to breathe it out into the world.

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